The other night I'm watching an episode of
Good Times that must've been from the early seasons because James was still alive and J.J. was only mildly annoying.
James and Florida are going to the wedding of a family friend.
James jokes about the bachelor party the night before, Thelma daydreams about her own wedding, and Michael spews his political spin that gets a laugh or two.
Suddenly Willona--the divorced, gorgeous with a capital "g", soul sista from next door--enters the apartment and announces that she isn't going to the wedding.
Florida immediately says: Why? You know so&so will be so disappointed you couldn't make it. . . .
Then Willona dives into this amazing monologue about the awful time she's bound to have if she goes to a wedding as a single woman. (And "amazing" doesn't mean it was a well-written monologue I just think Ja'net DuBois (the actress) is an amazing performer)
When Willona finished her diatribe I realized her reasons for not going are the same ones that have been chimed in every single sitcom scene by similar women over the past 30 years. Right up to Sex and the City.
And I'm thinking: Why is that still true? And why is it still funny?
I'm aware of the text book reasons why it's not good that these kind of jokes still stand. There are lots of feminist quotes that can come to mind when thinking about this stuff. But, for some reason, they don't satisfy me. It seems too easy to spew a quote.
Towards the end of the Good Times episode Willona has another monologue that explains to Florida the difference between being
alone and being
lonely. She assures Florida that she's not lonely via a sassy quip and promptly walks out the front door with a new boy toy.
Then I think: Well, maybe her statement would've landed better if she left alone. No boy toy.
Then I think: Yikes, this whole concept of "being with somebody" vs. "not being with somebody" is serious business. It's been a fail-proof topic for television series, self-help books and pop songs for a long time. So many folks wanna be with somebody yet so few can do it right / for the right reasons. Hence, the television series, the self-help books and pop songs. . .
And then I went to sleep because it was late and I had to get up early.
Who knew a sitcom from the 70s could invoke such thoughts?